Misandry

I dont think I have many misandry-ist opinions. Like, I'm all for equality, my understanding of it however is under the assumption that we live in a patriarchal society and that where men are seen as the default, women are the 'other', the companion, partner, sidekick, second. This is the perspective that I base my arguments and beliefs on.

I RECOGNISE that there are such things such as female privilege, I've tried writing up a list before, or using one written by men's rights activists but they are mostly bullshit. Even the good stuff, you can explain under the theory of patriarchy.

And what these mens rights activists complain about, generally is what women deal with, but only like a fraction. Like, if they are butthurt over 3 things, feminists are over 40 things.

There are some exceptions, I was watching a youtube video about how on the Talk, the women were laughing and generally making light of the fact that one women cut off her husbands dick. And it is true that the opposite genders couldn't make those jokes in the same way on national television. And I asked myself why that is, because this isn't the first time I've heard stories like that. Like, the grandma who shot the balls off the man who raped her granddaughter and everyone was commenting 'good on her' and 'he deserved it' and I was just like, backing away cos that's fucked.

I think that is wrong, I really do. I perhaps think that I have too much respect for the legal system in some ways, but I find it comforting to know that there is an agreed system in place to deal with crimes, and that taking matters into your own hands is dangerous to society. Rules are important.

I'm still trying to work out why people think that violence against men in this way is okay. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that it is women taking back power from abusive men, finding their own power. It demonises men in a society that- I wouldn't say values per se, but sympathises with them in  cases like this.

It's stupid because violence isn't stopped the way it should be and power is something men are encouraged to have, to be strong and dominant etc, but at the same time, women have got the upper hand in modern times in that abuse is not condoned in most cases and there is a lot of anger there from women.

here is a comprehensive list of men's rights activists issues. I won't deny they are issues, but I consider them issues that will be resolved through feminism or a male group working with feminism, not one that works against it. I think that feminism in my understanding is just not understood by MRA's.

Oh. That really explains the whole white feather fiasco.
The white feather issue was during the first world war. Conscientious objectors and young able men who did not sign up for the military were shamed from cowardice through the use of white feathers. Young women would give the feathers to the men, on the street, in shops etc, and generally shun them for not signing up. This is a real example of using one gender to influence the other, and shows the power women can hold. This links into the next point, but lack of gender equality means stereotypes and differing expectations of men and women- that men are meant to be strong and brave and protect the helpless women. Consider this- while men were forced into the military, men were also allowed to become educated, and become doctors and lawyers and politions. They were allowed to work and vote. Let's be real here, women didn't get the vote in Britain until after this war was over.
That explains the draft.
Women are fighting to get into the military, they are fighting to be allowed into special forces and to be recognised as capable in this capacity. The military had almost forever been a boys club and feminism obviously is trying to change that. It is men who make the arguments that their physical capabilities make them superior in this area, while feminists argue to let there be requirements to be in the military- based on ability and strength, not gender. There are women who are stronger than some men, that is a fact. In Australia, there isn't a draft, conscription isn't legal here. I don't believe in it. While the draft isn't in effect, stop complaining about it. My history isn't very good, but it's been a long awhile since it's happened and a lot has changed.
That explains why men get more jail time for the same crimes.
Actually, I've seen stats that say while women are much less likely to be convicted, when they are, their sentences are longer. And let's combat that with the fact that people go to jail longer for plagerism in some cases, then for brutal rape and murder. See how much women are valued in this society. How about the fact that only about 5% of rapists ever serve time in jail.
That explains “women and children first”.
Women are seen as helpless, weak and needing protection. This is a image feminists are trying to remove. Women and children first is not equality.
That explains chivalry in a time when women and men are paid equally for equal work and qualifications.
Women make 77c to the male dollar. Equal pay for equal work doesn't mean we're on equal financial footing, when it has been proven that with equal resumes, men are much more likely to be hired and thought competent. Only 3 on Fortunes top 500 are women. How about the glass ceiling.
That explains infant male genital mutilation.
This one is legitimate as a cause, but not one to throw at feminists. Women in some countries are still dealing with female circumsision, which involved cutting off the clitoris. which is akin to cutting off a males penis. It leads to painful, if possible, sexual intercourse, and while I'm not at expert, I believe it is stitched up basically over the vagina so penetration is difficult and without the clit, very, very unpleasant.
That explains why “teach men not to rape” is acceptable when “teach murderers not to murder” is seen as ridiculous.
It is ridiculous to 'teach people not to murder' because WE ALREADY DO. Murder is not acceptable in society! It's the worst crime that can be commited, with the harshest penalties. But rape culture teaches us to blame the victim, that what a woman is wearing, what she was drinking, whether she was promiscious, if she had implied sex was on the table, are all legitimate excuses a rapist can use. You don't blame a murder victim, but you imply that someone 'wanted' to be raped. Teaching men not ot rape is a good campaign because it puts the blame where it belongs, on the rapist who had sex with someone who did not, or could not consent.
That explains why female survivors of wartime are considered the “real” victims instead of their husbands and fathers and brothers who died.
Yet we continually honour military service, we hold parades, have a deep respect and admiration for soldiers. Also having sympathy for those let behind in grief is not wrong at all...
That explains why old women who outlive their husbands are pitied instead of their husbands who died before their time.
Same point, and I don't think this is one way. Men who outlive their wives are seen the same way, only women have a longer life expectancy- which isn't a social issue- so it's more often women outliving their partner.

I'll continue this tomorrow. It's late and these arguments are long.
 
That explains why men are turned away at the door in most homeless and abuse shelters.
That explains why people laugh when a man gets hurt but are outraged/deeply saddened when the same exact thing happens to a woman.
That explains the legal definition of rape in the US (and indeed in many countries).
That explains the alteration of educational standards to improve the scores of girls and decrease the scores of boys.
That explains “battered woman syndrome”.
That explains stranger danger.
That explains the heralding of single mothers as strong and courageous despite the evidence of the effect it tends to have on the children they raise.
That explains child custody and child support standards.
That explains how rape or abuse allegations are handled.
That explains why even though girls are touted as mentally maturing faster than boys, it’s a heinous crime to have sex with a 14 year old girl, but a 14 year old boy just got lucky.
That explains why a drunk man can rape a sober woman, but not the other way around.
That explains why a little boy can commit statutory rape of a little girl, but not the other way around.
That explains why a woman can rape a man or steal his sperm and still legally force him to pay child support.