The stress of online dating, I swear to God.

It's ridiculous. I'm a girl and I have a decent profile pic, so I get lots of creepers sending me 'I'm interested/you're cute' kisses (and I say creepers only because they're 30+. Some 50+.) Lots of Indian guys. One sent me 5 emails over like 2 days. Eventually I bothered to reply, and I was polite, but then he was like 'I finish exams on the 14th, we should go out' and I am not interested in this guy at all, but he sent me five emails. I had to respond and I HAVE A VERY AVOIDANT PERSONALITY.

I avoid everything that I don't want to know or deal with. I forgot my keys today which would have led to a 5 hour lock out of my house. I thought of it only a minute after leaving the house. I didn't check until 3 hours later, right before I went to head home. I don't check results, or tests. I act nice when I'm not thinking nice things.

So this happened. (This is me talking to my best friend. Guys, if you don't know how girls work when they are talking to you, this might be informative).

Me: one guys really got the wrong idea and i dont know how to say... i dont know

 (I copied and pasted convo except)

Him: thanks for adding

Me: it's cool
Him: now is facebooking
then texting
then talk on the phone, then meeting for coffee, then walking at the beach, then having a chat until all people sleep in hahaha"

BFFL: Wow

Needy much

 

Me: the thing is, you know i avoid any type of confrontation

he also called me pretty and implied we're dating

we are not

this is one of the muneeba guys btw (Translation: Islamic, doctor, 25, not particularly good looking.)

 

Mia: Well delete him

Avoid it

Have u given him fb or phone?

 

Me: fb

but he's nice

 

Mia: Delete

 

Me: and i dont want him to think im evil

 

Mia: He seems needy

Who cares

U don't know him

 

Lucy: i just dont know how to stop making polite conversation

 

Mia: And obs don't like him

Well

DONT ANSWER

Helps

 

Me: i guess its ruder to not tell him how it is

 

Mia: Well tell him

I don't think u and i are gonna wok out

Sorry.

That's it

Or. Delete

And stop responding.

Or tell him u got a bf already

Like

An ex wants to get back together

Or something.

Better than him thinkin u like him like that or actually wanna meet up

 

Me: oh my god i asserted myself

please give me a hi5

 

Mia: Lol

What did u say?

 

Me:

listen mansour, i think i need to explain that while I think you're awesome and talking to you is fun, i'm not comfortable with making any commitments or ideas for future plans with you
while i know we met on a dating site, im kind of just looking to find people to talk to and kind of going slowly from there, i dont know how much farther we could go, with distance and age difference...
i mean, talking to you is good and im enjoying myself but i feel uncomfortable thinking that your thinking its more than that

 

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So Yeah, I didn't avoid. I confronted. And he didnt get it and I had to confront 3 times. He is a really nice guy but.

 

Still, achievement awards goes to Lucy.

 

The other guy I was talking to tonight, who is better but still not... great, though he likes me a lot (I like guys calling me pretty), also thinks I'm pretty into him and I'm not really...

I mean, he's good to talk to but he doesn't read. I have this list of things Mia and I go through when we see a profile. I abhor the word 'genuine', obviously cull anyone that smokes or drinks a lot, or whose profile says 'I don't read much lol'. I lean towards the shy but sporty, or who like NCIS or Supernatural. Or if they have the Fray or the Script or something in their music. Honestly, profiles are lots of fun to judge, but since it's mostly lame stuff I'm judging, I figure it's okay.