My bffl and I were talking about how weird it is that young girls (and presumably young boys, but as we are girls, that is the side of the equation we can relate to), like 13, are having sex. Totally freaks us out really, because at that age, neither of us were even thinking of sex at all. Like, it just wasn't even a consideration.

I technically had a boyfriend at 12 but there was just no physical component at all. There was 'I want him to think I'm pretty' and maybe even 'maybe we could go to the beach so he can see me in swimmers and think I'm hot' but that was literally it.

Then there were the cynical and seemingly mature angst years, where I was into reading and writing about cutting and suicide and depression and I worried about religion and not being a slut and how weird and retarded I was because I didn't want (perhaps ever) to have sex.

Then the idealistic sexual awakening years which are still around now really. My bffl and I were talking about how long we'd wait to sleep with someone if we started dating someone new and she was like 'I don't think it's that big a deal now, I'd probably only wait a month or two.' And even me, honestly, I don't think I'd wait more than a few months, I just wouldn't want to. I was all about finding the one and being so sure and I still am, but not to the same extent perhaps.

And of course, if I ever were to get with you know who, or even if I didn't, I think we'd bang in like a week so my views on waiting have changed. I was a 'waiting for marriage' girl at one point, if you can believe that, I hardly can.

So back to the idea of 13 year olds having sex, it freaks me out mostly because I know at that age I was thinking about neopets and playing outside in the dirt and on no level was I ready for something like that. And at 15, sure I might have thought I was the smartest person in the entire world, but I was scared of sex, had lots of issues with it and certainly, my own pleasure never even entered the equation, it was more like 'what could I do to please my boyfriend', like what's on the cover of all the magazines, like Girlfriend and Dolly. So I'd think 'maybe I could give him a blow job' but I'd recoil completely from what I'd just think of as 'female third base'. And I'm not saying all girl are the same or that I was the epitome of maturity, because I'm not, and I wasn't, but the fact is, I was 18 before I wanted sex for reasons actually related to me, rather than to fulfill expectations or to please a hypothetical boyfriend and I just think it's sad that there are girls out there that are engaging in it before they've reached that state where they actually really, want to.