I have these strong feelings about people who try to classify others into categories.

I'm not saying I don't do it, or haven't in the past. For a long time, I believed that things like 'the popular group' actually existed and that they were just totally polar opposites to me and that we were absolutely distinct.

But especially in the last few years, and Exchange has certainly opened my eyes to it more, is that people don't fit into singular categories. Like, shows like Big Bang Theory piss me off because they make their humour out of putting people into boxes and then saying 'whoa SO DIFFERENT, totally incompatible! How hilarious that Penny is dumb and socially competent and the guys are smart and socially inept. How they clash! It just skews peoples views towards black and white thinking, and people are much more three dimensional than that.

A quote I can't find right now off Tumblr because it is quite generic in its wording, says something to the gist of, you can be the girl who has tattoos and dark eyeliner and makes boys crumble before you, and also the artist who wears long skirts and wild fashion choices, and the bookworm in a coffee shop somewhere writing on your laptop, and the girl with bright red lipstick and sundresses and the slob you are at home without make up and in ratty PJ's who gets midnight snacks and watches Millionaire Matchmaker for fun. You don't have to pick one. Be all of them.

Obviously we can't choose our personalities day to day, but it's crazy to think that a 'nerd' couldn't also like to go out dancing, or a party girl who spends half her time playing with her cat and watching Sci Fi movies, or a girl who is very shy being a competitive maniac when playing sport.A girl who loves to go out and get drunk but plans to wait until marriage before getting intimate and being hardcore dedicated to a serious relationship.  People don't need labels, because they'll just defy them.

The prettiest girls who wear a ton of makeup could be the kindest, most considerate girls you ever meet. The girl you think is super sloppy because she likes getting wasted could be really intelligent and an outspoken feminist. The guy you thought was a bit weird and awkward could be a total social genius, with heaps of friends and an absolute leader. People you think are different to you might not be as different as you think and they could be so much nicer than you imagine.

People aren't fundamentally different from one another. I truly believe it's possible to get on with anyone. Sure, some people you will click with more than others but if you just stick to the same old stuff and the same old familiar people and archetype, you are missing out, no question. It's one of the most liberating things I know.