Is it ever okay to share someones secrets that they tell you in confidence? Like, if someone trusts you to keep something big, and give you all the threats 'I'll never speak to you again" etc.

What if you don't speak to them anymore anyway? Or if you might, but they'll never know you told. Or if you just don't care what they think anymore and your best friend is begging and you know it'll make for an interesting conversation?

There is a secret like that that I've been holding onto for a long time now. I'm a bad secret holder because I like to puzzle things out and discuss them and this is one of those things I couldn't discuss, even with the secret sharer. So I told my Mum pretty quickly, and not everything, but enough. That helped. But then I had all these worries and I needed affirmation of some things, so I told someone about the secret. Not what it was, but just enough about how I felt about it to get her to shrink me and sort it out.

And I'm pleased to have kept this secret, I promised I would and having this person's regard has always mattered to me. So I suppose I'll keep it a bit longer, until I no longer ever see them ever and it won't matter if I spill.

In other gossip today, as my bffl and I spent the day doing assignments together, I told her I used to cut and we talked about each of the members of our group and how pretty much all of them are fucked up (which is true, what is wrong with people?). Then we had a long conversation about incest, after she decided to start shipping me with my brother because he thinks my music sucks and is gonna make me a playlist. And like, no, I don't think sibling incest should be illegal theoretically, I don't think adding 2% extra risk onto an already 4-6 percent chance of genetic mutation in offspring is enough to make something illegal. People with Downs are allowed to procreate, so are people with Huntingtons, and all manner of other genetic conditions after all. I oppose other types of incest on reasoning of power differential and consent issues, and I certainly wouldn't be into it myself but sibling/cousin incest, it's rationale for squick isn't well grounded.

Then we talked about gay marriage (I'm for it, she's for civil union with the exact same rights, just a different name). I think that's stupid though, because 'marriage' doesn't have to be just for a man and a woman, the Bible didn't create marriage so they don't get rights to the word and words change definition easier than creating a new word that just makes gays look even more separate and on the fringes. People want marriage, and they deserve it.

Anyways, I'll stop bludging and back to work. 35% lab report due tomorrow.... fuckkkkk.