Life continues to chug on, but happily.
My social life is on the up, I have organised to see most of my friends at least once a week in various timeslots, which is wonderful. I definitely feel that unless a substantial effort is put in, friendships don't stay strong. They require regular maintenence, which of course is a pleasure rather than a chore when you have lovely friends like I do. Megan and I are doing regular mental health check ins with each other which is funny. I practice my psychologist skills on her, since she can't resist my pretty face (obviously) and then she guilts me into spilling my guts back. My friend Stacey and I saw a movie tonight and are seeing 'Lucy' on Wednesday and should be doing more fitness stuff together too which is great. Jen and I just skyped so we are all caught up and things are fine there.
It can be difficult to juggle so many friendships without feeling like some get neglected, like, not talking for two weeks or something (I'm definitely guilty of that), but I think that's okay sometimes with some friendships that can just pick up where they left off. For the most part though, I'm very satisfied with the quality of my friendships right now. I'm also excited to have so many friends from a post-high school era. I've certainly gained new appreciation for the changes in my life since high school, because as much as I don't think anything is different, I know I've changed and my friendgroup has too, and it's for better, not worse, definitely :)
I've always ignored the 'college is where you meet your friends for life' quote, because I thought it was useless since I already had my friends for life in tow, but now I realise there was room for improvement and addition and my life is richer for it.
My goals for this week, and the beginning of Spring, are to work harder at fitness, uni, debating, and making closer friendships with the debating people and Jen's friends. I have a mission to become at least on aquaintence terms with Jen's best friend by the time she gets back. Like, there's no reason for us not to get on, we both love Jen and she thinks we're both great so it should work? Right?
Some cute stuff is happening, of the crush variety. This happens so rarely, it's like I don't even remember what it's like, but I feel happy, like there are possibilities and opportunities for fun ahead. Like, obviously, it's way too early to even be thinking about anything like that, we're become friends that's all, but like, why shouldn't it become more than friends if we like each other and we're both single? I'm just so happy about it and want to be able to talk about it. Thankfully the bffl is always up for a chat about my love life. She's super settled in her own and though we don't see eye to eye on this kind of stuff, she often sees stuff I don't, and thinks in a different way to me, so that can be helpful (or annoying when she's a buzzkill). I also like that it's someone she doesn't know. I feel like Stitch from Lilo and Stitch when he talks about his family, and is like 'I found it all on my own. It's little, and broken, but it's still good. Yeah, still good'. That's my love life lol. I found it all by myself, which is great for a second reason in that whenever Mia tries to 'set me up', which she doesn't, all she does it go 'you should date that guy' to some random we know at uni, she always picks people I'd have zero interest in. Bitch don't know me.
I mean, okay, obviously she does, but she does struggle with identifying people that I'd like to date.
She overemphasises the 'all Lucy cares about is feminism and sexism and equality!' thing into, Lucy needs someone that will passively accept all my opinions which I fucking hate. Like, obviously, be into equality, but if you want to argue the finer details, if you want to debate affirmative action or the wage gap or parental rights and child support and basically, any issue under the sun, that's how you make me like you. I like people that are more confident than me, not less, that more than keep up with me. I want someone who can compliment me in areas that I'm not the best at. Like, I want someone who's comfortable in social situations, to make up for my average at best social presence. I have my own strengths, I know I do, so I'm not saying I just want someone better than me in every aspect but in the area that is my worst, confidence in social settings with people I'm not intimate with, I don't want someone that will drag me down. I like going outside my comfort zone and doing new things, but I can't often do that alone. If I got with someone who hated doing that stuff, would never try and made me the one that had to be the aggressor to get us to do anything, I know I wouldn't be able to go half as far. Not to mention I'd just think less of the other person.
Basically, be reasonably intelligent and be more extraverted than me, that's the basis of what I like.
And I've found someone that had that grounding and is also turning out to be wonderful, so we'll see where that goes.
My social life is on the up, I have organised to see most of my friends at least once a week in various timeslots, which is wonderful. I definitely feel that unless a substantial effort is put in, friendships don't stay strong. They require regular maintenence, which of course is a pleasure rather than a chore when you have lovely friends like I do. Megan and I are doing regular mental health check ins with each other which is funny. I practice my psychologist skills on her, since she can't resist my pretty face (obviously) and then she guilts me into spilling my guts back. My friend Stacey and I saw a movie tonight and are seeing 'Lucy' on Wednesday and should be doing more fitness stuff together too which is great. Jen and I just skyped so we are all caught up and things are fine there.
It can be difficult to juggle so many friendships without feeling like some get neglected, like, not talking for two weeks or something (I'm definitely guilty of that), but I think that's okay sometimes with some friendships that can just pick up where they left off. For the most part though, I'm very satisfied with the quality of my friendships right now. I'm also excited to have so many friends from a post-high school era. I've certainly gained new appreciation for the changes in my life since high school, because as much as I don't think anything is different, I know I've changed and my friendgroup has too, and it's for better, not worse, definitely :)
I've always ignored the 'college is where you meet your friends for life' quote, because I thought it was useless since I already had my friends for life in tow, but now I realise there was room for improvement and addition and my life is richer for it.
My goals for this week, and the beginning of Spring, are to work harder at fitness, uni, debating, and making closer friendships with the debating people and Jen's friends. I have a mission to become at least on aquaintence terms with Jen's best friend by the time she gets back. Like, there's no reason for us not to get on, we both love Jen and she thinks we're both great so it should work? Right?
Some cute stuff is happening, of the crush variety. This happens so rarely, it's like I don't even remember what it's like, but I feel happy, like there are possibilities and opportunities for fun ahead. Like, obviously, it's way too early to even be thinking about anything like that, we're become friends that's all, but like, why shouldn't it become more than friends if we like each other and we're both single? I'm just so happy about it and want to be able to talk about it. Thankfully the bffl is always up for a chat about my love life. She's super settled in her own and though we don't see eye to eye on this kind of stuff, she often sees stuff I don't, and thinks in a different way to me, so that can be helpful (or annoying when she's a buzzkill). I also like that it's someone she doesn't know. I feel like Stitch from Lilo and Stitch when he talks about his family, and is like 'I found it all on my own. It's little, and broken, but it's still good. Yeah, still good'. That's my love life lol. I found it all by myself, which is great for a second reason in that whenever Mia tries to 'set me up', which she doesn't, all she does it go 'you should date that guy' to some random we know at uni, she always picks people I'd have zero interest in. Bitch don't know me.
I mean, okay, obviously she does, but she does struggle with identifying people that I'd like to date.
She overemphasises the 'all Lucy cares about is feminism and sexism and equality!' thing into, Lucy needs someone that will passively accept all my opinions which I fucking hate. Like, obviously, be into equality, but if you want to argue the finer details, if you want to debate affirmative action or the wage gap or parental rights and child support and basically, any issue under the sun, that's how you make me like you. I like people that are more confident than me, not less, that more than keep up with me. I want someone who can compliment me in areas that I'm not the best at. Like, I want someone who's comfortable in social situations, to make up for my average at best social presence. I have my own strengths, I know I do, so I'm not saying I just want someone better than me in every aspect but in the area that is my worst, confidence in social settings with people I'm not intimate with, I don't want someone that will drag me down. I like going outside my comfort zone and doing new things, but I can't often do that alone. If I got with someone who hated doing that stuff, would never try and made me the one that had to be the aggressor to get us to do anything, I know I wouldn't be able to go half as far. Not to mention I'd just think less of the other person.
Basically, be reasonably intelligent and be more extraverted than me, that's the basis of what I like.
And I've found someone that had that grounding and is also turning out to be wonderful, so we'll see where that goes.
