Feminism~ Oppression vs

It's not like I want my one defining feature to be 'feminist', like I know it annoys most of my friends, my best friend finds it occasionally annoying, my most religious friend gets fed up (though she doesn't tell me to my face, just bitches to other friends- though to be fair, privately I don't have much respect for her belief system either), my guy friends tend to just make fun of me and tell me to chill out, but it just matters. A lot. To me.

http://www.everydaysexism.com/

This site... it's pretty massive and moving. Look at it. Read it. Understand it.


I also saw this:

I also saw this and I just- I just went oh. Because yes. I try very hard to understand where MRA's are coming from, where anti feminist arguments come from. And I understand being on the other side, being on the oppressor side of things- I'm white. When it comes to racism, I feel the shame and anger and annoyance of being made the enemy, of being excluded from something, of being made the bad guy, I used to think it was so fucking stupid to be blamed for something people that could possibly been my ancestors did, was ridiculous.

But you can't take it personally, and now, I don't think that's what it is about. It's not about blame, it's about fixing the now. I have privilege from being white, heaps of it. It doesn't make being white wrong, but it means that ignoring the idea that race exists and causes oppression doesn't affect me personally. I have the privilege that I can ignore race, say I'm not racist, say 'I don't see colour' but the fact is that colour and race do exist and it exists in a way that harms other people. Is it my responsibility to fix? I don' know, I'd argue not, but it is my responsibility to be aware and to not perpetuate it further.

Sexism is obviously where I do have an invested interest. And LGBTQ issues to an extent but I don't take that so personally being as I'm cis and am attracted to guys and anything beyond that is pretty private and doesn't affect how I'm treated because of how wary and unsure I am about expressing it.

So back to this picture, this is what is called misandry, and sure, it's your gender getting degraded, but it's not hurting you. Maybe offending you a bit, being a bit annoying. It's not getting you killed, or raped, or assaulted, or your rights coming under attack, or lack of representation or power or money or work opportunities or respect. That's the difference.